Article: Islamic relationship?

This question came across in my mind this morning. "Is it true that women is the border of men to become success? In order to find the answer, I need to rewind myself. Well, people says experience is the best teacher. Unfortunately, it's true.

The story started here,

I was one of the best student for PMR and because of that, I got submitted to a boarding school. And then the culture shock came in because of that school really got a strong Bi'ah Islamiah (Islamic environment) in there. Enough of the blablabla, as the result, I rebel and jump into a relationship with a girl.

Now what it has to do with the topic?

Because of the bi'ah islamiah of that school, the secret mission case has to be open. There's a mission inside that case wrote "Islamic relationship". I or we need to pretend that we're not in relationship to avoid being punished by the teachers. Or, if we got caught, we will use the secret mission as the reason why we're doing this. Normally we use this term of "Islamic relationship" after we got caught by friends or Badar. And of course, this islamic thingy makes the relationship become sweeter by asking to pray 5 times a day or even qiamulail together.

After two years, we survived with all kind of situations.

It's true I was happy. It's true I was in love. It's true I got someone who cares. But in the end of the day, I failed. Why? Because I was the best student and now I only got 6A's for my SPM. I was the best student and now I can't further my study in engineering because of my result which I got C in LK and B+ in TK. I was the best student and now I can't continue my study abroad which is my dad's hope because of the result.

So now, Is it true that women is the border of men to become success?

Well, if you judge the answer by the examples that I gave, probably you'll say it's true.  But the reality it's not. I failed because of the relationship itself. It's haraam.

But I really thankful to Allah swt because without this experience, I'll never be in this position. If on that time I got so many friends, now I have ukhuwah. I have Usrah, I have this, I have that. I think the decision to break up is the thing that I have to pay to get all I have now. It seems so expensive before but now it's not anymore.

And because of that, I think that is not a failure to me. In fact it's a success.

For those who has this term of Islamic Relationship in their mind, there's something you should ask yourself.

There are so many with the same gender who really unclear about Islam. Why don't you be there for them instead of the opposite gender?

There are drug dealers,
Robbers,
Gangsters,
or even beggers.

You said it's impossible? But why you can do it to the different gender?

Because you approach.

Article: There's a footstep we don't have to follow.

"Your father is an engineer, why are you proceed your study in accountancy?"

"Your dad is an engineer, you should learn math with him bro."

When I met this kind of situation I have to admit, I hate it. Well, some people who do not read this blog maybe do not know how I hate it but I'm hoping on you who read this blog to tell them. Will you?

Back to the topic, people usually judge people. That's the sad reality nowdays. I mean what's the problem if I'm not doing the same thing as my father did? Does that means I'm not his son?

Say whattt?!

Listen, we live in a democratic nation. We got choices. A lot of choices. I mean what's the point when we all got choices but we do not have the authority to choose?

"You're a lazy person. So let me help you to choose."

Oh well, I admit it. But in this case, thanks but no thanks. Maybe you can offer me your help for something like finish my assignment, do my laundry or change my cloth.. On second thought, let's cancel the last one.

The point is, we have the power to choose and at the same time we should give that choose power to peoples. Let them choose what they want to be.

I mean, is there any problem if a doctor has a child who study on architecture? No! In fact, if you could see on the bright side, the son maybe can design his father's hospital in the future.

Well, you don't think that if my father is an engineer, I also must have the brain like Einstein when we talk about math don't you? If you do, you forgot one thing. Maybe my brain genatic is more on my mother. Yeah, I was created from both my father and mother genetic. So there's no problem if I'm not following my father's footstep.

If someone asking you that kind of question again, you should answer it with "Why not?".

Article: The major sin

Assalamualaikum w.b.t.

There are three signs of a show-off:
1. He is lazy when alone
2. active when with people
3. and does more work when he is praised for it and less when blamed for it

So be careful when doing a good deed. Remember for whom you should be doing it. Remember your purpose.

Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala mentions in the qur’an:
 

“When they stand up for prayer, they stand up unwillingly, to be seen by the people, and they do not remember Allah except a little.” [4:142]

He mentions:
 

“Woe to the worshippers who are unmindful of their prayer those who want to be seen (at worship), yet refuse small kindnesses.” [107:4-7]

And again:
 

“O, you who believe, do not cancel out your charity by reminders (of your own good deeds) and by offending (the recipients) like one who spends his wealth to be seen by the people.” [18:110]

The prophet salaAllahu a’alayhi wa salam said:
 

“If anyone causes his deeds to be heard of, Allah will make him heard of (unfavourably), and if anyone makes hypocritical display, Allah will make a display of him.” [HADITH]

He salaAllahu a’alayhi wa salam also said:
 

“The greatest fear I have about you [Muslims] is minor shirk. That is, doing good deeds for show. On the day when Allah will reward people for their deeds, He will tell them ‘Go to those people for whose attention and praise you did these deeds, and see if they will reward you.” [HADITH]

Allah is the all-Knowing and is aware of what is truly in your heart.

If you understand that Allah is the all-Seeing then why don't you do it secretly?

Article: I'm very sure!

"Why you bother to follow all the dunya rules when you don't even bother to follow the akhirah rules?"

 If you're reading that question, it may be lead us into two conclusion.

1) Why are you questioning this? Even it's the dunya rules, we still have to obey it if it's not against the syara'.
2) Yes. It's true.

All of you have the probability to choose number one or number two depends on your thinking capacity.

My answer:
"I'm fully responsible to every word that I say and write but I'm not responsible for what you understand from it."

Chill,
Let me explain. Imagine, a teacher in your class. Do you remember every last 5 minute of every class she will probably ask you this one important question.
What it is?

"Do you understand, class?"

So, what is that mean?
It means, she wants to make sure you understand directly about what she had told you, because she doesn't want you to answer probably the same exact question that jump out in your exam sheet with your personal understanding.

That is my point!

You can hear or read what I say and write but don't even once you assume. Even deep in your heart say that "I'm 100% sure you mean this!"

O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin.
[Al-hujeraat:12]

Hey, I don't mind if you ask me about anything. But I really do mind if you ask me nothing and say like "I'm really sure!"
Here, I leave you with my personal ask.fm account so you can ask me anything about what you are assuming.
Don't assume. Please ask.
:)
Ask me!